Mindfulness Podcast: Self-compassion

Mindfulness Podcast: Self-compassion

Judith Krause covers the most important topic - self-compassion.

Podcast Self compassion audio

When it’s your time to become a parent, you would never make your child feel inadequate. Yet, says psychotherapist, social worker and fertility counsellor Judith Krause, many of us have no hesitation in treating ourselves as less than. Self-compassion, she says, is a great way to improve our relationship with ourselves so we can model that behaviour to our children. Here are her tips:

Treat yourself like your BFF

“Imagine that your best friend is standing in front of you – think about what you’d say to them,” advises Krause. “And then when the inner critic kicks in, think for a moment: Would I say that to my best friend if she was standing in front of me? No, of course you wouldn’t.”

Remember you’re human

Krause advocates ‘common humanity’, which means: “If someone else was experiencing exactly what I’m experiencing right now, it’s not unreasonable for me to think that they wouldn’t be experiencing it in exactly the same way I am. So I’m not going to give myself a hard time for what I’m experiencing.”

Know your worth

“Embrace the fact that you’re enough,” advises Krause. “You’re enough being who you are right here right now, doing the best you can with what you’ve got available to you.”

Disregard unhelpful thoughts

Not all thoughts are based on fact, says Krause, so if you’re dealing with a painful thought, question what your mind is telling you. “If that thought was, ‘I can’t do this’, or ‘it’s never going to happen for me’, it doesn’t mean it’s true. It just means that I’ve had that thought, and I can move through that and defuse it by coming back to my breath, concentrating on my breath.”